Books &Arts
61. Divorce and children

Dragons` den
Mar 26th 2009
From The Economist print edition

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JULIE LYNN EVANS, a well-known British psychotherapist, deals with troubled children with remarkable devotion and insight. As the recession puts added strain on many marriages, her account of the mental stresses and strains that parental break-up inflicts on children could not be more timely.
Many of the children Ms Evans sees do not want to talk at all, regarding grown-ups as untrustworthy or irrelevant. She starts by getting them to depict their lives in spray-painted graffiti on giant sheets of paper, or by making models from sand or clay. The outcome can be terribly sad: one depressed mother appears as a sagging black balloona dissolute absent father is scrunched up into a clay ball and hurled around the garden. It is hard not to agree with Ms Evans, that children from broken homes are almost always more distressed than their parents realise. The children she sees are clingy, rude, destructive or attention-seeking, and much else besides. Being ignored compounds the problem.

A. 어휘
divorce 이혼. den (짐승이 사는) 굴. 소굴.
psychotherapist 정신요법학자. deal with 취급하다.
remarkable 非凡(비범)한, 주목할만한. devotion 헌신. insight 통찰.
recession 경기후퇴, 불경기. added 증가된. cf. added value 부가가치.
strain 무거운 부담, 긴장. account 이야기. parental break-up 부모의 이혼.
inflict (타격.고통을) 가하다. timely 기회가 좋은, 適時(적시)의. grown-up 成人(성인).
untrustworthy 믿을 수 없는. irrelevant 관계가 없는, 부적절한. depict 표현하다.
spray-painted 스프레이로 그린. cf. spray 물보라, 물안개. 향수 뿌리는 기구.
graffito (복수형. graffito) 낙서, (기둥이나 벽을 긁어서 만든 고대의) 긁은 그림/문자.
clay 粘土(점토), 흙. depressed 낙담한, 意氣銷沈(의기소침)한.
sagging 축 늘어지고 있는. dissolute 방탕한, 무절제한, 放縱(방종)한.
scrunch 웅크리다. hurl 세게 던지다. broken homes 이혼한 가정.
distressed 괴로워하는, 고민하는. clingy 접착력이 강한. besides 그 뿐 아니라.
ignore 무시하다. compound 강화하다, 섞다, 혼합하다.

B. 구문
-spray-painted/attention-seeking
cf. 명사/형용사/부사+ing/pp.→복합형용사
ex. spray-painted(스프레이로 그려진), attention-seeking(주의를 끌려는),
well-behaved(행실이 좋은), good-looking 잘 생긴.

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Her remedies are simple: rules and diversions. Self-discipline, unfashionably, is vital. Keep anguished and angry phone calls until after bedtimechildren hate overhearing them. Don`t burden them with details about legal fights or sexual infidelity. Avoid arguing in front of them and above all do not demonise the other side, however badly you think your ex-spouse has behaved. Children have a right to two parents. Poisoning their mind against one of them is 'stealing' part of a child`s natural 'physical, emotional and spiritual inheritance', she argues. Some contact with even the most awful, addicted or inadequate parent is usually better than none at all: it helps the children make sense of what has happened. Very few parents, Ms Evans notes, have absolutely nothing to add to the lives of their children.
The other big lesson is that broken homes can be patched up from the outside. Grandparents, neighbours and others can offer children windows of happiness in an otherwise bleak week, with security, fun, companionship or a phone number (usually treasured but rarely used, in the author`s experience) to call if things become unbearable. Such helping hands should be non-judgmental. The last thing a stricken ex-spouse needs to hear is that they are drinking too much or cooking too little.

A. 어휘
remedy 치료, 요법. diversion 다른 데로 돌리기, 기분 전환.
self-discipline 자기단련. unfashionably 한물 갖지만, 케케묵었지만. vital 중요한.
anguished 괴로워하는, 비통한. overhear 우연히 듣다, 엿듣다. detail 자세한 내용.
legal 법적인. infidelity 不貞(부정), 배신, 믿음이 없음. demonise 악마같이 만들다.
ex-spouse 前妻(전처)/前男便(전남편). behave 처신하다.
inheritance 상속재산, 유산, 유전. awful 무서운, 지독한. addict 중독되다.
inadequate 부적당한, 불충분한. make sense of 이해하다. lesson 교훈.
patch up 이어 맞추다, 수습하다. bleak 쓸쓸한, 황량한. companionship 友誼(우의).
treasured 소중한. unbearable 견딜 수 없는.
judgmental 판단의(옳고 그름을 판정하는) stricken 상처를 받은, 괴로워하는.

B. 구문
- Her remedies are simple: rules and diversions.
[그녀가 제시하는 치료방법은 간단하다. 즉 규율과 전환이다(어려운 상황에 적응하도록 아이를 훈련시키고 이혼한 부모를 대신할 사람을 찾아주는 것이다.)
-Keep anguished and angry phone calls . . . children hate overhearing them.
[이혼한 부부가 서로 전화할 때는 비통하고 화난 전화는 아이들이 잠 든 후에 하라. 아이들은 이런 전화를 듣는 것을 싫어한다.]
- Such helping hands should be . . . drinking too much or cooking too little.
[이렇게 도와주는 사람들은 아이들의 행동이나 말을 판결하는 말을 해서는 안 된다. 상처받은 前 배우자들이 절대로 들어서는 안 되는 소리는 술을 너무 많이 마신다는 소리나 요리를 너무 하지 않는다는 말이다.]