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But aren't deviant adults also ready to pounce?
I think the problem now is that the adults just totally unleash their anxieties on their children. There was a time not very long ago when you had the same worries. You just took the leap of trust, a very important word. You trusted your child to take the next step of growth. And I think it's really important because society is founded on trust. That's the glue of society, of culture, the glue of intimate relationships.
Don't urban parents need to be more protective of their children?
It could be argued that it's the other way around. There are many more people around to see if there is something untoward. Why would urban parents need to be more protective? My older son took the subway when he was about nine or ten years old by himself. We were sitting at the dinner table one night and we were talking. He said, 'I've figured out that if it ever looks like there's going to be trouble on the subway, I act like I'm a little bit crazy and no one goes near me. Okay?' This is just a classic case of problem-solving which kids can do if they're given some lumps and bumps to cut their teeth on. He figured that out by himself.
A. 어휘
deviant 표준에서 벗어난, 常軌(상궤)를 逸脫(일탈)한.
pounce 달려들다, 심하게 공격하다. unleash 풀어놓다, 분노를 폭발시키다.
leap 跳躍(도약). take the leap of trust 단번에 신뢰하다. glue 접착제.
intimate 친밀한. urban 도시의. protective of 보호하다.
the other way around 반대로, 거꾸로. untoward 못 마땅한.
figure out 생각해 내다, 계산하다. lump 덩어리, 혹. bump 충돌.
lumps and bumps 어려운 일. cut one's teeth on 어릴 때부터 익히다, 젊어서 배우다.
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But you see stories all the time on TV about the sexual abuse of kids.
That is so out of proportion to the reality. Parents think I'm a child molester when I say it, but the Department of Justice data for the last fifteen years is very clear on the subject. As parental hysteria has escalated due to anxieties, the actual data show that this is not a legitimate fear. When you look at the Department of Justice data, this is just not a major phenomenon. You've got to know the kids are in far more danger inside the home than outside the home. Stepfathers are a big problem. Sexual abuse happens in the home.
What is your main advice for parents?
One, back off and give kids some credit and some leeway to demonstrate their competence. Two, let kids play freely without monitoring. Three, eat dinner together at least five nights a week: aside from the sense of cohesiveness, it gives all that security that is the breeding ground for success. No matter where you are on the socioeconomic spectrum, it is more correlated with school adjustment and achievement than any other single thing that parents can do.
A. 어휘
sexual abuse 性的(성적) 학대, 성희롱. out of proportion to ...과 균형이 맞지 않아.
cf. proportion 비율. molester 癡漢(치한), 괴롭히는 사람.
Department of Justice 법무부. subject 주제. due to ...때문에.
actual data 실제적 자료. legitimate 합법의, 정당한, 논리에 맞는.
phenomenon 현상. stepfather 의붓아버지, 繼父(계부).
back off! 들볶는 것을 그만 두라! give credit to ...을 믿다.
leeway 활동의 여지, 여유, 風壓(풍압)[배가 바람불어 가는 쪽으로 밀려감].
competence 능력. monitor 감시하다. cohesiveness 凝集(응집). security 안전, 안보.
breeding ground 飼育場(사육장). cf. breed-bred-bred 양육하다.
spectrum 스펙트럼, 分光(분광). correlated 서로 관계가 있는. adjustment 적응.
B. 구문
- No matter where you are on the socioeconomic spectrum,
cf. No matter where you are→Wherever you are
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